I did forget to mention in a earlier post two experiences of my ex's that also help me withhold judgment: His watching his mother die from a brain hemorrhage as a young child, and having a bipolar father. Both make deep attachment nearly impossible for him, I think.
These aren't excuses for his behavior. They're just mitigating circumstances---the likes of of which I've never come close to experiencing. And ultimately, since it doesn't matter what my judgment of him is, there's no point wasting any more breath or thought on it. A recasting of the Guermantes's et alia's irrelevant judgment of others.
(How petty I am: Not that he's in the same league as a Beethoven!)
These aren't excuses for his behavior. They're just mitigating circumstances---the likes of of which I've never come close to experiencing. And ultimately, since it doesn't matter what my judgment of him is, there's no point wasting any more breath or thought on it. A recasting of the Guermantes's et alia's irrelevant judgment of others.
(How petty I am: Not that he's in the same league as a Beethoven!)
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